Thursday, August 14, 2008

a thought experiment

I have a little thought game to play for you folks out there (All three of you that read my blog):

Pick the one topic you most hate, most dispise, absolutely detest...

Do you have it in your mind?

That one topic that really makes your blood boil...

Can you see it? Clearly?

Now, flip it around and defend it. Defend it using the most reasonable and logical arguments that you can.

For example; let's say you are Pro-Life. Defend the Pro-Choice side (Or vice-versa).

I'll bet that it will make you very uncomfortable. I'll bet that you can't even do it. I'll bet that you end up saying outrageous, unreasonable statements like "I think Pro Choice is great beacuse I love murdering babies!"

We simply can't do it.

Why?

Because we are afraid. We are afraid that if we understand a viewpoint, we automatically agree with it. So instead we refuse to learn about "The Other Side". We rebel, we block it... and we get entrenched.

We are more likely to believe that the "Other Side" is naive, stupid, stubborn, dense, all kinds of interesting things...

We are more likely to believe the "Other Side" is less intellegent than us. That they don't have all the facts, that they didn't research it as much as we did...

Rather than try to look at both sides of the argument and come up with a solution for the problem, we will stand there, declare that a solution is impossible (This from the monkeys that learned how to fly in space) and insult the other side.

Which, since we don't actually know anything about the "Other Side"(because we are too afraid that understanding is agreeing), we do nothing more than prove that we really aren't all that bright...

We are more willing to turn our friends and family into enemies than to solve problems.

Now, here's the second part to this little thought experiment:

Did you just fight with a friend? A lover?

Recall your last fight with that person, take their side, and defend it.

I'll bet you can't do it. I'll bet you can't make their side make sense to you. No matter what you do it'll will always come down to you making up stupid statements; "I didn't take out the trash because I LIKE being lazy!" You won't be able to make it be reasonable. You are simply too afraid.

Interesting, isn't it?

The Cheyenne had an interesting thing to say about this, we have all heard it, but no one actually practices it any more;

"Don't judge a man until you have walked a thousand steps in his moccasins"

We aren't even willing to take one step, because we are too afraid that we might be caught wearing his moccasins...

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(Moon hoax people are just idiots! Yep... I can tell that I'll be practicing this thought experiment for a while...)

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6 Comments:

Anonymous Anonymous said...

Did your high school not have a debate team? The "other side" kind of thinking is exactly what this sport teaches you to do! Perhaps the problem is that not enough people join debate teams and/or are truly good at it!

-- Mal.

10:58 AM  
Blogger Kevin said...

..... Ok, I have just read this, and I am confused. Are you saying that we are unable of understanding the other person that has a different opinion than yourself, and therefore we should not even try to do so? Or are you saying that we are not trying to understand the other thought process because we are so caught up in our own? Either way, I would think that there are some times that we must agree to disagree, and understand that with some Issues there might be rights and wrongs on both sides of the coin.

Then of course that is only my opinion

--Kevin

12:31 PM  
Blogger Kevin said...

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12:32 PM  
Blogger Aabh said...

Kevin! :D

I don't know, I don't like "Agree to Disagree". It seems when you agree to disagree, it just keeps coming back up over and over and over again until you want to kill each other for it. My father and I have been arguing over school vouchers for a long time... and we keep "Agreeing to disagree" which means he thinks "Guy is simply naive... he'll learn in time that the Conservative way is the only way and that Librals are simply dreaming..." Which, of course, after working it out (At length), isn't true... Both Liberals and Conservatives have valid points... but I don't want to "Agree that dad is just an idiot" or "Agree that Guy is Naive"...

No, I'm just saying that it seems our culture is trying to encourage not understanding the other side, mostly because people seem to equate "Understand" with "Agree".

Case in point: I understand Osama Bin Laden.

Most people (Perhaps not you, because we have talked about it) will instantly jump to "How can you condone a man who would kill thousands of innocent people?!?!?" They will instantly throw out everything they know about me, assume I'm no longer a patriot of my country, assume I recommend terrorist action, etc. Sometimes it's really, really extreme (I actually HAD that response once... I was so taken aback I couldn't answer for a few seconds). Of course I don't agree with Bin Laden, but I can understand why he did things. People don't want to know the "Why", they would rather just maintain that Bin Laden is some lunitic who randomly kills people because he saw it on a television show or the angels told him or something...

And hey! You read my blog! :D That's awesome!

Mal: In actuality, my school did not have a debate team... (I wish it did) And I totally agree, everyone should join the debate team, it is excellent conflict resolution.

:D

1:34 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

Kevin: as much as Guy may be all talk about not liking to "agree to disagree", he and I need to do it all the time or we WOULD end up killing each other. :-)

Guy: what IS your position on school vouchers? (I know where I've stood for years, since this was an issue that came up when I was in high school, but I'm interested to see where you (and your Dad) stand).

-- Mal.

3:29 PM  
Blogger Aabh said...

Mal: I think currently I stand with a "We might as well try it" approach, the Socialists are having a lot of trouble getting the job done in our current environment, so you might as well let the capitalists have a whack at it. But I feel we have to be very, very careful because with Capitalism, everyone goes on the Golden Rule (He who has the gold, makes the rules), and that may not be making rules that are in the best interests of the children.

8:45 PM  

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